Tongue-tied

I’ve always hated talking about my writing. Pretty weird for someone who wants to make a living as a novelist-I know. But it’s not that I necessarily hate sharing my writing. I don’t mind people reading it. It’s easier when there’s an element of anonymity, of course; I didn’t have much problem submitting query letters or even sending out my manuscript because there was the reassurance that I didn’t know these people, and they didn’t know me, and even if they thought my writing stank, well, it’s not like they’d ever be able to humiliate me in person about it.

No, my problem is that I’m terrified of talking about my writing. I have a publishing contract, and in a couple of months, for better or worse, my precious manuscript will be out there for all the wide world to see. Necessarily I need to be able to talk about it-to generate buzz and, hopefully, to build up an audience so that when my novel comes out in May it’ll become an instant international sensation, hit the New York Times bestseller list, and land a movie deal with Ridley Scott attached to direct. Right?

Well, maybe not all of that. But at least I need to be able to speak publicly about my novel without become extremely embarrassed and immediately looking for ways to change the subject. Which is what tends to happen, because I hate talking in person about my writing. I hate it when people say, blithely, “So…heard you wrote a novel. What’s it about?” Such an innocent, guileless question. But I hate it.

Some of it is probably just selfishness on my part. It’s been my manuscript for so long-my story, my characters-and now I have to let it go out into the world. I have to detach myself from it and talk about it objectively as a Novel-not as the ever-unfolding, almost organic thing that’s lived in the privacy of my own head for years. I’ve got to cut it down to a series of simple descriptors and formulae so I can answer that dreaded, dreadful question in a way that hopefully doesn’t misrepresent my creation too much. That’s hard to do, for one thing because my story isn’t really “high concept”-i.e., not describable in one succinct, juicy line-and for another because it has a life of its own in my head which refuses to be reduced to simple terms.

I don’t think that’s enough of an explanation, though. “Not wanting to misrepresent my work” doesn’t explain why I get almost physically ill when I have to talk about it. Does anyone else suffer from this kind of block? How do you overcome it? How do you get to the point of being comfortable talking about your writing?

7 Comments
  • https://theothersideofsorrow.blogspot.com McKenzie

    I completely understand where you’re coming from. I don’t have a book about to debut but I hate it when people ask me what my current manuscript is about if I accidentally drop the fact that I’m writing one. I always stumble through a terrible and complicated explanation which leaves the person thinking I’m insane, probably. But there’s so much to tell! I have a whole dang universe up there!

    For me, posting FSF and other things that I’ve written has helped me be a little more comfortable opening up about my writing… Also, as far as explaining my manuscript, it helps me when I get someone else who’s read my book to tell me what they think its about, in a few sentences. That at least gives you a general idea… and its a little painful sometimes but its a good quick answer for those awkward questions. :)

  • https://theothersideofsorrow.blogspot.com McKenzie

    Not sure what I did to make it weird and italic-ish there at the end O.o

  • https://Website covenantmom5

    :) A small (very small) taste of what it is like to be a parent and watch your kids grow up and leave the nest. Which is what you have been working towards for, lo these many years, but still a very wrenching sensation.

  • https://writing.fly-casual.net Amanda

    Haha, I think I fixed the random italics! :)

    I wonder sometimes if I’d have an easier time talking about my writing if it were more mainstream. As it is, I try to explain “historical fantasy set in a world that resembles classical antiquity, heavily inspired by Rosemary Sutcliff,” and people’s eyes immediately start to glaze over, and I start feeling like a super-nerd. :)

  • https://anonymouslegacy.blogspot.com/ Angela

    you are my favorite super-nerd, and i LOVE your book. cannot wait till it comes out.

    we still need to do some bloggish promoting and cross-posting. that’ll help loosen the stammering tongue a bit, hey?

    as for how you get comfortable talking about your writing, i think the best way to do it is also the most basic way to write: you just do it. often. no matter how badly you think it falls out of your head. all things get better with time….

  • https://midenianscholar.livejournal.com/ Alyssa

    I don’t have a publishing contract, but I’ve gone through part of the querying process and am constructing a writer’s tutorial class around my manuscript for the fall semester. Both these experiences taught me a lot about what I write (and why) just because I had to talk about it concisely. Recently I watched a video of lecture by Doug TenNapel, in which he talked about the importance of summarizing your story with simple sentences. He recommended using note cards for the over all message, then each of the arcs. I’ve been using this in my current WIP, and it’s been awesome. When I have to talk about my story, I like to have ready answers at difference levels of intensity, depending on my audience-so the casual answer (with a hook) for people who are vaguely interested, the more complex answer for people with a real interest, and then the full-on nerd answer for people who want something more.

    • https://amandamccrina.com Amanda

      That seems like a good strategy. I’ve done the same thing, to some extent (i.e., for those who are only vaguely interested, I usually just say something along the lines of “Oh, it’s a fantasy adventure story”). I might try the note cards thing, because I’ve found that the succinct, beautifully worded summary that incorporates both plot and message tends to go right out of my head when someone asks me about my story. :)

      Thanks for commenting!